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18 November 2012 @ 02:59 pm
This is likely to stir up a hornet's nest, but I'm in the mood.

Okay, shipping. What exactly does this entail? Is there a mandatory sexual element? Must there be? And just because a segment of fandom adheres to a particular ship, should The Powers That Be and the actors involved in the fantasy ship be obligated to listen to/tolerate/agree with this shippery?

Little back-story: I listened to an interview with Misha Collins on Winchester Radio
a few days ago and they took caller questions, unscreened. (Probably not the wisest idea.) The last one was courtesy of a weepy young lady who was desperate for Misha to comment on 'Destiel'. He hemmed and hawed and tap-danced around it, she kept pushing, and it all ended up feeling very awkward. About the same time, an essay
popped up on my tumblr dash concerning how good it is that shipping come out of the closet, particularly for the LGBT community (with specific reference to Destiel).

Now, my brother is gay. I read NC-17 slashy fanfic. I'm not a homophobe but as a woman married to a dude, I'm in no position to adjudicate what it's like to be gay or bi. Nor do I feel like we, as a fandom, have the right to bully the show's writers/actors into compliance with ANY of our wishes unless they damned well feel like addressing the topic. And if certain fans are too socially ass-backward to suss out when they're making someone uncomfortable, do we not have the right to comment? Do we not have the right to put a foot down?

There's been a lot of talk about 'shaming' ... ship-shaming, kink-shaming, etc. and how we shouldn't tolerate it. We're all freaks of some stripe; who are we to judge? But there ARE LINES, folks. When we begin to make someone else uncomfortable, we need to back the fuck off and rethink our tactics. Criminy, put yourself in their shoes. Yes, you have the right to say what you want. Guess what? SO DO THEY.

Please don’t shove your ship in anyone’s face and expect them to put their blessing on it, especially not in public. Please don’t assume that shipping is some greater societal statement. Write your own story; let others write theirs.

All comments welcomed, but pleeeease, stay civil, 'kay?
Current Mood: contemplativecontemplative
Current Music: 'What If We Give It Away' - REM
monicawoe: Between-Sammonicawoe on November 19th, 2012 01:08 am (UTC)
That "green doesn't sell" bit is fascinating to me. Granted this isn't the cover, but one of my favorite books, 'Die Unendliche Geschichte' (original German version of the Neverending Story) is written almost entirely in red and green ink to distinguish between realities. That's one of the reasons why I love it so much.

The indefatigable Mrs. Griffinquickreaver on November 19th, 2012 01:37 am (UTC)
That's doubly interesting because red and green together generate visual energy (as complimentary colors.) You know how when your eyes get tired, your vision gets swimmy looking at certain colors? It's the light waves effecting each other. Also, red is hard to read in smaller fonts. But I can't see them using blue/orange instead. So I guess it works!
ratherastoryratherastory on November 19th, 2012 07:57 pm (UTC)
I love that story! I have the German version (though it's slightly too advanced for me, alas). A point of interest, in English the parts that take place in "reality" are in italics. No change in colour.
Amberamberdreams on November 20th, 2012 11:41 am (UTC)
Oh! I was lucky then, I have an English copy (hard back) that has the different coloured fonts in it. I love it.